painting rainbows has always been delia's thing.
i love how so many people think of her when they see one, and i love that they share with me. makes me smile to think others are thinking of her. after losing a child you pray that people won't forget about them. because they are a person. even if you didn't get them for very long, they are always yours. always a part of you and your life. they have left their mark.
and that girl of ours makes it known over and over. we are blessed with friends and family that aren't afraid to talk about her. to ask. to share with their kids. yes, it's hard, the questions from kids are tough to answer, but they need to be answered.
death is real. sadly, babies sometime die. that may be scary, but it's true. it's also true that they live! we know that delia lives in a place far better than our home here. yes, it sucks, but it is our life. so we celebrate her memory. the time we did have. if we didn't do that, i don't think i could make it through her birthday. last year we had a housewarming party and celebrated her too. so much love for her shared that day. lanterns, laughs, some special gifts, prayers, tears, smiles.
this year, i knew we had to do something. her birthday fell on a friday, and there are a group of us that get together at random for playdates. so i decided i'd host a messy playdate. then it morphed into a painting rainbow party. our turn with the brushes!
it was a hard week, but her actual birthday? oh it was fun! i needed to act like a kid again. to just go crazy, see smiles every where, paint, and enjoy. thank God for friends and family, but mostly for giving us delia.
thankfully james was off work, so we started our day with balloons from nana and papa. seeing her tree. pink pancakes. then party prep.
the afternoon was one big chaotic mess. not stressful, just fun!
the kids had a blast and eliza sadly asked today "is it still delia's birthday?"
i see this becoming a tradition. james asked what we would do when we were old and haggard. "just paint slower."
this was all for you delia...thanks for inspiring us!
the buckets on the fence was the best idea. that way they didn't get tipped, kicked or dumped within seconds.
we separated the bottles everyone brought into colors and just combined them all in the buckets. then i added water to fill them up a bit.
been singing this song lately...
"Lord make me a rainbow, i'll shine down on my mother
she'll know i'm safe with you when she stands under my colors, oh,
and life ain't always what you think it ought to be, no
ain't even grey, but she buries her baby"
- if i die young...the band perry.
and delia's song written and sung by a dear friend...