i was a little nervous with how eliza would do finally having a baby at home with us. wondered if she would be confused, or not expecting this one to stay. it had been just her and us for almost 3 1/2 years.
would she be jealous? annoyed? helpful? loving? too loving?
thankfully, so far, it has been a smooth transition. she loves her to pieces (or as she says "i love your pieces") but not to the point that i have to worry about her being alone with hattie for a second.
she'll ask if she can do something with me, and usually she just holds my elbow, or my hand as i wipe a butt, change a diaper, snap a onesie. not helping, just holding, and thinking it's a help. it's cute.
many times it's for a burp rag, because sister likes to puke, and i'm usually tied up nursing. once i started "eliza, would you get me..." and she interrupted "a burp rag!" she knows the drill.
there hasn't been much jealousy, but i fear that will come once hattie starts moving and stealing toys. or maybe eliza will just be excited that she can finally play with her. she already asks if hattie can play with certain toys, and tries to give her some. it's funny to walk into the living room, see hattie on the floor with a pile of toys next to her, and she has her head turned the complete opposite way!
she tells everyone we meet that "this is baby hattie jo" or "hattie jo baby" and recently she told everyone at the doctor "i'm the big sister!" usually it's "i'm big girl eliza"
we also have to count to three and say their names at bedtime. it started with "let's say hattie jo togedder." and now it's become "1-2-3 big girl eliza and hattie jo!"
in the first few days it reminded me of the one ending on friends when they are crowded around ben's bassinet. eliza would say "her eyes are open...oh she closed them again!"
she anticipates the day they can sleep together. one of the first weeks she told james "i want hattie to sleep with me!" when he told her she was too little she yelled "but i like her!"
good argument. i had to laugh as james replied "i like her too."
last night, i did give in and got in the bath with eliza, so i could hold hattie. i asked her beforehand "do you want to take a bath with hattie?" she said "in the real bath?!" i told her "yes, but i am getting in too" and she replied "okay, but would you hold her for me?" :) i like that she thinks she had a choice in the matter.
in the car when hattie is crying eliza suggests we recite "hattie bear, hattie bear" (teddy bear, teddy bear) i've caught her saying it on her own a few times too.
and finally, we may have caught a glimpse into a future nickname. one we didn't think of. remember, we always said "fawn" when we prayed before. eliza caught and corrected herself at a hilarious time one night. we all said together "God bless, daddy, mama, baby, eliza, delia, pebble and f-f-f-attie." poor thing. i can hear it now "mama! eliza called me fattie!"
oh i'm anxious to see their relationship grow. hoping and praying they are close, and that eliza continues to watch out for her. that they will be best friends and always there for each other. that hattie will know how much she is loved, how much she was wanted, and how much we waited for the moment eliza had a sibling to love on daily.